What sex would you prefer, A Boy or A Girl and why?

If you were to have only one child, and you're allowed to choose the sex which would you prefer, a boy or a girl and why?

It is normal to prefer a baby of a certain sex. In some cultures, the preferred sex is a boy child, while to some they prefer a girl child. There are so many different reasons why a particular sex is more preferred to the other. Some prefer a boy so as to have a son to carry on the family name, but that a female child once she gets married would carry on their husbands’ name. Some see it as a pride to have more sons. You’ll see a man whose wife just had a boy reveal the sex with pride while if he had had a girl would just simply tell you his wife had a baby. Some people believed it is easier to control a boy child at their adolescence age than a girl child, is it really easier?

I come from a family of five girls and a boy. My parent gave birth to a boy as first born and the rest of us are girls, they said they kept trying in an attempt to have another boy child so after the first born who happens to be a boy they had five more children who turned out to be girls after giving birth to our last born a girl, they had to give up on trying to have another boy child. I have a family friend, they are seven girls their parent kept trying to have a boy child but to no avail. Also, I once had a neighbor who is also in the search of a boy child she already has five children who are all girls even has twins among the five girls but she say she’ll still try again to see if she’ll get a boy child since where she comes from they cherish boy child more than girls as they’re believed would be the one to carry on the family name. I have a church member who has seven boys just because they (the woman especially) are in search of a girl child.

The desire for boy child has result to some men pressuring their wives to have more children whereby, putting the health of the women in danger, and some women pressurizing their husbands to try once more in search of a girl child thereby straining their financial strength. When there’s a failure in producing the desired results, some men will resort to polygamy in the hope that the other women will give them the son they need and some women would go into any length in search of a male child. Some men even go to the extent of hating their wife and become very abusive saying until she produces a particular sex before they'll stop the hate, but the sad thing is that, some still hate their wife even after they get their desire sex cos most times it’s not about the gender issue. The spouse in question has their own personal issue that needs to be sorted out.

In an effort for girls to carry on their fathers name especially when they come from a wealthy and recognize home some retain their family name, even in marriage, to preserve their father’s name.

Just because a mother or father has a gender preference, does not mean they would or should be bad parents if they don’t get their desired preference. Everyone has a “plan” in their heads for their family, and if the plan gets altered, it can cause disappointment.

If you feel strongly about wanting a certain gender note that this does not make you a bad person or a bad parent, if your feelings concern you, find someone to talk to, such as a counselor/therapist. With assisted reproductive technology you can select the sex of your baby, but most of all I believe in prayers. Pray to God that you want a particular sex and He’ll give you according to His will, But if you still don’t get your desires granted just know what you get is still God’s will.

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